Low Self-Esteem And Self-Worth

What if you were already enough?

Low self-esteem and self-worth can feel like living with a heavy backpack—constantly doubting your value, comparing yourself to others, and struggling to feel worthy of love, success, or even basic self-care. Whether it shows up as people-pleasing, perfectionism, or fear of failure, this inner critic can take a serious toll on your confidence and relationships.

How It Feels To Doubt Your Value:

Perfectionism: You set impossibly high standards for yourself and beat yourself up when you don’t meet them, even though they’re unrealistic.

Fear of failure: You may avoid trying new things or setting goals because you’re afraid you’ll fail and confirm your belief that you’re not good enough.

Constant self-criticism: You have a tendency to put yourself down, even over small mistakes, and may focus on your flaws rather than your strengths.

People-pleasing tendencies and difficulty saying “no”: You go out of your way to please others, even at the cost of your own needs, because you’re afraid of rejection or not being liked.

Difficulty accepting compliments or believing positive feedback: When someone gives you a compliment, you brush it off or feel like you don’t deserve it.

Social withdrawal: You may avoid social situations or new opportunities because you don’t feel “worthy” of them or fear being judged.

Overly sensitive to criticism: Small comments or feedback from others can feel like personal attacks, leaving you feeling worthless or inadequate.

How It Can Affect Your Life:

Burnout and anxiety: Constantly worrying about how you’re perceived or trying to meet unrealistic expectations can drain you mentally and physically.

Depression: When you consistently feel inadequate or unworthy, it can lead to feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or even depression.

Missed opportunities: You might turn down promotions, dates, or new adventures because you doubt your ability or worth.

Imposter syndrome: You may feel like a fraud, convinced your success is a fluke or that others will “find out” you’re not as capable as you seem. Feeling like you don’t deserve success or that you’re “faking it” can hold you back from embracing your achievements.

Self-sabotage: When you don’t believe in your own worth, you might unknowingly engage in behaviors that keep you stuck, like procrastination, avoiding challenges, or settling for less because you don't believe you deserve more.

Unhealthy relationships: When you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s hard to set boundaries, ask for what you need, say no, attract the right people, or feel safe being your full self. You might find yourself in toxic relationships or staying in situations that don’t
serve you.

Rebuilding The Way You See Yourself:

Explore your inner critic: Understand where that critical voice came from—and begin to quiet it.

Reframe negative beliefs: Learn to spot and shift the harmful narratives holding you back. We’ll help you identify and challenge those beliefs, and replace them with empowering, realistic thoughts that align with your true value.

Set boundaries: Practice saying “no” without guilt and prioritize your own needs without shame. We’ll work on establishing and enforcing boundaries in relationships and in life, helping you protect your time, energy, and self-worth.

Build a healthier self-image: Therapy isn’t just about fixing what's “wrong”—it’s about discovering the strengths, qualities, and potential you’ve been overlooking. Begin recognizing your strengths and feeling proud of who you are.

Practice self-compassion: Learn to treat yourself with the same warmth you’d offer a friend, especially when you make mistakes.

Goal Setting & Achievement: Building self-worth means finding confidence in your abilities. We’ll set realistic goals and honor your progress—every step counts. Over time, this will help you see yourself as capable and deserving of success.

Heal past wounds: Explore early experiences that shaped your self-worth, and begin to rewrite those messages.

Fears About Being Seen—And Truly Valued:

Will therapy just make me feel worse?

No. It’s common to worry that digging into your self-esteem issues will just make you feel worse, but therapy isn’t about highlighting everything that’s wrong with you; it’s about reframing how you view yourself and building a healthier, more compassionate relationship with who you are. Yes, it can feel uncomfortable at times, but that’s a sign that healing is happening.

Is this really something that can change?

Yes. Low self-esteem didn’t develop overnight, and it won’t disappear overnight either, but it’s completely possible to build a stronger sense of self-worth. With the right tools and support, you’ll begin to see yourself through a kinder, more realistic lens.

I’ve tried everything to boost my self-esteem, what’s different about this?

If you’ve tried self-help books, affirmations, or online advice, you might feel like you’ve hit a wall. What therapy offers is a personalized approach—someone to walk you through these issues, challenge your negative thinking, and help you rewire your brain for long-term growth. It’s not a one-size-fits-all solution; it’s a process tailored to you.

Low Self-Esteem & Self-Worth