Regret | Auralis Therapy

Haunted by what-Ifs?

Regret can linger like a shadow—reminding you of the choice you didn’t make, the chance you didn’t take, or the words you wish you could take back. It can keep you anchored in the past, questioning your worth and fearing that you’ve messed up “too much” to move forward. If you're stuck in the loop of "what if?" and can't seem to shake the weight of past regrets, you're not alone.

When You Can’t Stop Replaying The Past:

Constant Ruminating: You can’t stop replaying past decisions or thinking about how things could’ve turned out differently.

Guilt: You carry a heavy sense of remorse for choices you made that may have hurt others—or yourself.

Shame: You might believe that your past decisions define you and that you’re stuck with the consequences forever.

Avoidance: You find yourself avoiding certain situations or people because they remind you of your past mistakes.

Feeling Stuck: It’s hard to move on or make new decisions because you’re afraid of repeating the past.

How Regret Can Hold You Back:

Chronic stress or anxiety: Worrying about past mistakes can trigger anxiety, stress, or even physical symptoms like headaches or insomnia.

Keeps you frozen: You may feel paralyzed when facing new choices, stuck in fear and second-guessing.

Blocks growth: You might turn down new opportunities because you’re too afraid to risk “getting it wrong” again.

Damages self-trust: You question your judgment, your instincts, and your right to make mistakes and still be worthy. Constantly focusing on mistakes can also chip away at your self-worth.

Isolation: Shame can push you to retreat from others, convinced they’ll judge you the way you judge yourself.

Moving Forward Without Erasing The Past:

Understand your story: Regret is often tied to deeper beliefs or values that we’ve been holding onto since childhood or a past experience. We’ll look at the decisions that brought you here—not to judge them, but to understand your younger self with more compassion.

Process the emotions: Whether it’s guilt, sadness, anger, or grief—we’ll give those feelings a place to land so they don’t weigh you down.

Rebuild self-trust: You’ll learn to make peace with imperfection and begin trusting yourself again.

Shift your narrative: The way you see your past isn’t set in stone. Instead of defining yourself by your mistakes, we’ll explore your resilience, growth, and values. You’ll start to view your past decisions as lessons, not just failures.

Make space for the future: You deserve to move forward without being held hostage by the past. We’ll help you step into what’s next—with clarity, courage, and care.

What if talking about it makes it worse?

Will therapy just make me relive all my mistakes?

No. Therapy isn't about dragging you through the mud of your past over and over. It's about understanding why those past decisions still haunt you and finding a way to make peace with them. We’ll explore your feelings in a way that helps you grow from them rather than stay stuck.

What’s the point? I can’t change the past.

You’re right—we can’t undo what happened. But we can change how it lives inside you. Therapy helps you process, release, and learn from regret instead of being haunted by it.

What if I just can’t let go of the past?

It’s okay to feel attached to your past—that’s human. But we’ll work together to shift your mindset from “what if” to “what now.” You’ll develop tools to break free from the constant loop of regret and learn how to make decisions today that align with your values and goals.

Isn’t regret just a natural part of life?

Absolutely. We all experience regret—it’s a normal human emotion. The issue arises when it starts controlling your life, stopping you from moving forward. In therapy, we’ll teach you how to process regret in a healthy way, so it doesn’t rule your decisions or hold you back from living your fullest life.

What if I can’t forgive myself?

It’s always possible. Forgiveness takes time—and it might not look how you expect. Therapy helps you begin softening your view of yourself, even when full self-forgiveness feels far away.